If you have stared into the abyss of a warm chocolate cake, you know how agonizing that wait can be. But, you also know the chocolate-smeared shame that accompanies wolfing down the cake. And that is just one of the 35000 decisions we make every day. That number seems unnaturally large because there are a number of small, insignificant decisions we don’t remember but have to make nonetheless. It’s overwhelming to consider how each of those decisions leads to one another and affect our lives. Our days, in short, become a collection of decisions we make.
But, none of these decisions matters on the big day. Because the stakes are high. Your choices aren’t a Yes or a No. There’s the agonizing choice of waiting. This is what makes one decision far greater than the others: those extra choices that could determine how awesome you will be later in your life. But, often, the complexity of a decision is not in the choices as we often believe, but in our imagination of the outcome of the choices. And the problem with hard decisions is that our imaginations run wild telling us how this one decision could make or break our life, leaving us in an indecisive paralytic state. So, we stare at the marshmallow that’s our big decision. Chances are that you are staring at more than one marshmallow. There are various ways to determine your marshmallow: Pro-con lists, asking 95 different people, reading about what others did, and finally throwing your hands up in the air and saying: “I am more confused than ever now so, screw it, any marshmallow will do (mostly exact words).”
We fail at this because we believe one decision controls the rest of our future. But, when you look back, this decision rarely features in the one you remember fondly/regretfully looking back. What you remember is one of the 34999 random insignificant decisions you took on a random day – the decision you hardly gave a second thought. We are at a time when we are inundated with choices and these choices make it difficult to make decisions. But the paradox of that is every big decision’s outcome is only as good as the number of choices it creates for you. You can’t determine how awesome your future will be – only whether you will have enough choices you can connect looking back.